The Online Sex Punking

The set-up:

Grant is an individual who I've seen in passing twice in my entire life. Each time he was shamelessly making out with some girl.

I didn't even know her name.

Fortunately for me, Grant has a Xanga page. On his blog, Grant describes the entire relationship with the girl (Julia); the good times, the low point, and the eventual ugly break-up.

His AIM screen name was also there.

Do I even need to state what happens next?

df: Hello Grant
Planescape1: hmmm I dont recognize this username
df: Julia gave me this screen name.
df: We're presently dating.
Starscape: oh......what is it...ed?
Starscape: suffice it to say, I did not expect you to contact me

Starscape: or if you did, I expected it to be at some level of immaturity and anger from all the horrible things julia has told you
Starscape: (this has happened to me before)
df: Sorry dude.
Starscape: not a problem, you were polite...that wins points
Starcape: so whats up?
df: I just wanted to know a few things about your and Julia's relationship.

Starscape: yeah no problem, I'd be happy to help
Starscape: all I ask is that you keep an open mind
Starscape: Tatsu was not able to do that and assumed every single thing I said was a lie
df: No problem. Julia just seemed really upset, and didn't really want to go into the specifics of the affair.
Starscape: she's still getting upset about it?

df: Julia isn't very open about it.
Starscape: yeah, she....isnt very interested in talking about a lot of things when they arent exactly "happy" experiences
df: So, you and Julia dated for about eight months, no?

Starscape: I think it was closer to 11, but that might just be my flawed memory
df: What caused the relationship to go downhill?
df: Just you attending UC Santa Cruz, or something else?
Starscape: are you asking for the specific events where it died...the overreaching theme that killed it... the events leading up to it...what?
df: The specific events.
Starscape: I went to UCSC and julia and I both agreed to allow for hte potential of seeing other people, but in her mind that never really registered...she never thought it would happen and thought it was nothing
df: You saw someone else?

Starscape: we maintained our relationship or whatever for a while with me there
Starscape: until one day I came to her
Starscape: and told her that I couldnt get this girl out of my head
Starscape: i just couldnt stop thinking about her

Starscape: and I thought it was her right to know this
df: While you were at UC Santa Cruz?
Starscape: yes
df: Did you do anything with that girl, or was it just a thought?
Starscape: i didnt actually do anything

Starscape: it was a thought
Starscape: but it was impure
Starscape: so I thought it best to let julia know
Starscape: I refused to cheat on her, in mind or deed
df: What happened next?
Starscape: much screaming exploding crying stuffs
Starscape: and her leaving me

Starscape: it really was my fault though
df: After eleven months or so, it just took a phone call or two to break it up?
Planescape1: yeah it was pretty abrupt
df: No reconciliation, no getting back together?
df: Was this the first fight you two ever had?
Starscape: no we definiately had other fights
Starscape: usually about hte fact that her dance was 100x more important to her than I was

df: I'm pretty shocked; I've had fights with other girls, but we often made up and went back together.
Starscape: and that she would never take time out of her day to see me
Starscape: she wanted to get back together
Starscape: but i wouldnt

Starscape: until eventually I caved
Starscape: and came back to her asking if we could try
Starscape: and when I humbled myself and asked if we could try or whatever
Starscape: she was already starting things with tatsu
Starscape: we met one last time

df: Was this after you told her about the girl?
Starscape: after
Starscape: i think her words were something along the lines of "if you kiss me i wont be able to be with anyone else for at least a month or something"
df: And she immediately started with Tatsu, or after that?
Starscape: noooo of course not
Starscape: she started this thing with tatsu a couple weeks after the initial breakup

df: Tatsu was after your admission, right?
Starscape: he was after
Starscape: we did meet that final time
Starscape: we did fool around
Starscape: it was a "finalaizing" thing to her

Starscape: which it certainly was not for me
Starscape: and things ended up the other way around with *me* trying to get back with *her* but yeah
df: Can I ask you a personal question?
Planescape1: go ahead

df: Did you ever actually have sex with Julia, or was it just puppy love making out?
Starscape: the farthest it ever went was fingering, or her doing the opposing female-male thing to me ( handjob)
Starscape: we did not have sex
df: That's all?
Starscape: ...yeah...why?

Starscape: (im curious if you have gone that far or not now)
df: I've had oral sex with her.
Starscape: ahh
Starscape: yeah she wanted to do that and nearly let me
Starscape: but decided against it
df: Both ways. Me and her.
Starscape: we were close to that step
Starscape: hmm ok

Starscape: im guessing that my time with her opened her up sexually somewhat
df: To be perfectly honest, we even had intercourse once.
Starscape: she was very very afraid of ":doing something wrong"
Starscape: wow
Starscape: im surprised
df: But it was definitely an exception and took a lot of convincing....

Starscape: because im serious, she was hideously afraid of doing something she shouldnt do
Starscape: even though she wanted it
df: ... as well as an ambient, party atmosphere.

Starscape: and thank you for being honest with me
df: Yeah, you too.
Starscape: you have definately earned respect, though I dont think that really matters much to you :-P
df: I just wanted to know a bit more about Julia, since she doesn't like to talk about her past relationships.

Starscape: i have a question
Starscape: she never had sex with me
Starscape: but she did with you
df: Yes.
Starscape: are you saying she wasnt a virgin when you had sex>
Starscape: ?

df: She assured me it was her first time.
df: But it's impossible to tell for certain.
Starscape: then why ask me? :-P
Starscape: well
Starscape: yeah I guess

Starscape: it actually is possible to tell for certain assuming she hasnt broken her hymen before
Starscape: but ok
df: I didn't pay attention.
Starscape: yeah, it doesnt matter
df: I was a little drunk...
Starscape: ugh
df: By the way, do you know how I could talk to Tatsu?
Starscape: he wont talk to you about this really
Starscape: unless he changed since last we talked

Starscape: i just know that tatsu was never right for her
Starscape: and he was completely rebound
df: Are you seeing anyone now?
Starscape: yes
Starscape: have been for ~3 months
df: Cool, do you have any pictures.

df: I'll show you one of my past girlfriends...
Starscape: actually no, I dont have any on my computer at the moment...im sorry =(
df: I like Julie, but she oftentimes seems possessive.
Starscape: julia? =P
df: Typo.
df: Did you ever sense that about her?

Starscape: yes I did very much
Starscape: in fact
Starscape: ive sensed it even since we broke up
df: Here's my girlfriend before Julia;
df: http://www.tuckermax.com/britt.gif
df: What do you think?

Starscape: i cant tell a whole lot from a picture
Starscape: but at the very least
Starscape: shes pretty
df: She ended up being a bit too superficial and loose for me.
df: But she was also very nice, we're still friends.

Starscape: too loose?
Starscape: thats good
Starscape: i wish i could still be friends with julia
Starscape: she really wont talk to me anymore
Starscape: she kinda does

Starscape: but its really superficial
df: Yeah, her name was Alice.
df: Damn, have to go.
df: See you.